Private school... here we come!
Wednesday, July 15, 2009 by Deeedra
Dan and I are both trying not to be consumed or upset about his job situation, but at times, that is a huge challenge. His boss was supposed to get him an office in Milwaukee so he could do sales down here. Yesterday we learned, that may or may not even happen. So, instead, they are yanking the work truck, leaving us to buy a car by Monday morning. I have commitments through out the summer that require me to have a vehicle. Besides, the last thing I want is to be stranded at home with three little ones and no vehicle. That sounds like winter! :) The hard part is, Dan will continue driving to Appleton every day (he has been for some time now) but this time, without work paying for the gas. The round trip each day is 191 miles! That comes out to about $400/mo in gas! That's a huge pay cut! That's 5,000+ a year in gas! Talk about a blow right before the baby. On top of that, a few weeks ago, we just committed Caden to private school for two years, which will cost us an additional couple hundred a month. Scary! In the end, we know something has to come of this. Why would God have told us to put him in private school if our finances were going to get worse and stay that way? Somethings coming, I just know it, and I'm trying to hold on to that. If you don't yet have children, you do not understand finances. Things were easier before Dan and I had Caden. Hard because we were in college, but easier to deal with because we didn't have little ones to care for. Everything changes with little ones.
So, yes, Caden will be going to OCS. Many of you who have been reading my blog for any length of time know that Dan and I have been struggling with homeschooling vs. private school for a long time. Public school in this area just isn't an option for us. Both of us feel that is wrong for Caden. He has such a potential to be crushed or built up in the school system. He is very sensitive and yet has so many leadership qualities. I want him to be in an atmosphere that will work with him and encourage his well being and not just his acedemics. OCS has small classes (last years kindergarten class had 3 kids) that leave more room for the teachers to really invest in the kids. The pros about OCS were amazing to us. They really take the opportunity to come along side you and help your child develop in all areas of life. It's more than just school. Having teachers who commit to praying for you, your marriage, your finances, and your children daily is amazing. They even have an internet link where you can regularly get notes from the teacher about your child and what they are or are not doing. They keep you completely informed. There are so many other reasons we love OCS, but ultimately, we want Caden grounded in Christ before we send him into the world. It isn't about sheltering Caden, it's about instilling morals and values in him that we want him to carry the rest of his life. If I'm going to send him to school for 8 hours a day, allowing someone else to have more time with him than myself, that person better have a close view on life as myself. I don't want some liberal, worldly person who is going to teach my child something other than what I believe or feel to be best for Caden. He's five. He needs guidance from someone who will help train him in the way he should go. Look at our society. Look at the way children treat adults. Look at the lack of responsibility and drive so many children have. I don't want that for Caden. I know that is the parents responsibility and we make sure we do that, but teachers can make or break it as well. Please don't misunderstand me (as I know a lot of my readers are public school teachers), I don't devalue your role. Nor do I think you suck! But none of you would be Caden's teacher either! Dan and I both had horrible experiences in the public school systems. I don't want that for my son. Instead, I will sacrifice being able to buy a home or a new car to make sure my child is receiving the training he needs. My children are more important to me than the stuff Dan and I have. The most important thing God has given us are these WONDERFUL little ones and we will not let anything get in the way of raising them to be God centered adults. That is our most important role in life and we take it VERY seriously. Therefore, public school is not an option... at least, not while they are so young. I started my elementray years in private school and I have to say, OCS is FAR better than any private school I have ever seen. I was completely blown away. This is the first private school I have ever known to get it right. For the first time Dan and I found a school that goes beyond education. Truly amazing and REALLY excited for Caden to start in September. We already bought all his school supplies (I won't have time as we get closer to the start of school) and Caden couldn't be more excited. He had his kindergarten testing on Monday (one on one with the principal who also goes to our church and we've developed a relationship with). He LOVED it! I couldn't believe how excited he was when I picked him up. Tomorrow Dan and I are meeting with the principal to talk about the results. It's an exciting stage in life.
overdue update
Tuesday, July 14, 2009 by Deeedra
I recently had a couple of fellow cloth diapering moms ask me for my wipes solution recipe. It is one that I have come up with on my own. I didn't like or have all of the ingredients for recipes I found online (baby oil is not ever used in this house and using burts bees baby shampoo seemed like a waste). Here it is:
2 cups water
2 T. olive oil
1 T. Dr. Bronners peppermint soap*
1-2 drops Tea Tree oil
Mix it up and put it in a spray bottle.
*Dr. Bronners is amazing stuff that you can get at Walgreens. You can also use it to make your own cleaning supplies which will save you TONS of money and free your home of chemicals that could seriously harm your little ones.
On that note, I've had a few inquiries about the recipes I use for cleaning products. Here you go:
All purpose cleaner:
1/2 teapsoon washing soda (not baking soda)
2 teaspoons borax
1/2 teaspoon liquid soad
2 cups hot water
combine soaps in spray bottle and add hot water. Shake to disolve. This lasts forever as it won't go bad.
For your toilet bowl:
2 parts borax and 1 part lemon juice works but I usually use 1/4 baking soda (buy a huge box) and 1 cup vinegar. Then, let it sit and scrub it clean.
I also make my own window cleaner (vinegar and water in a spray bottle) and floor cleaner or mop water (o clean a linoleum floor, mix one tablespoon of liquid soap, a quarter cup of baking soda to two gallons of hot water. Add ¼ cup of white vinegar to the mix and you have an excellent linoleum floor cleaner. This solution also works very well on tile floors. )
Anyway, things are insane around here. The kids and I are going nuts! I'm so busy with the weddings this summer and just don't have energy or time. My time with the kids has stunk and I'm just fried. Seriously, I can NOT wait until summer is over. I want to be done being pregnant and get back to a normal schedule. Of course, then I'll be annoyed it's crappy out and snowing. I just can't win this year :( oh, life. It will get better. I know it.
I'll post some pics later but right now, the kids are ready to eat some lunch!
Please God
Monday, June 8, 2009 by Deeedra
Dan has been working in Appleton every day (2 hours away). Having him gone for 12 or more hours a day has been so overwhelming I can't even put it into words. So, here's the story. Dan is supposed to be doing sales now and is supposed to be getting an office in Milwaukee in the VERY near future. However, someone at the office in Appleton quit last week and now Dan is doing all the service (fixing, installing and repairing security systems) calls there. He has barely started doing the sales and still has to finish training himself (yeah... training himself) for that before an office in Milwaukee will be established. He is burning out so quickly. He leaves the house at 6:30 before anyone else is even awake and doesn't get home until sometime after 6:30 at night, just an hour before the kids go to bed. The kids saw him for a half hour tonight and they sure took advantage of every minute they could! It's draining all of us. I don't understand how people do this all the time. It is no way to live.
On top of the crazy hours, Dan got a $5,000/year (might be more) pay cut. He also needs to buy a car as he won't be able to use a work vehicle come the end of the month. Trying to save up for a car and the baby with a pay cut is no easy task.
Dan is obviously looking for a new job... when he isn't sleeping or working that is. Tonight, after the kids fell asleep, he was out on the couch. Not gonna lie, its hard not having a chance to even talk to him. Watching him sleep at night is not my idea of fun, but I can't blame him ONE bit! He has the stress of the world on his shoulders right now and he's exhausted. I'd feel the same way.
The kids and I have been trying to stay out of the house as much as possible. The more we are out and doing things, the faster the time goes and the better we handle the long days without Daddy. Now, if the weather would only cooperate! Fricken rain and cold weather, go away already! It's June and our furnace is running. Pathetic. It's times like this I HATE living in WI! Granted, the only time I like it is when it is warm in the summer and beautiful in the fall. I need it to be nice out the rest of the week so the kids and I can just get through. ugh.
So, there it is... another complaining post. But if you had to stay home with three kids, by yourself, for 12 or more hours a day with no adult interaction, you would complain to0!!!
rough day
Monday, June 1, 2009 by Deeedra
So, why do I bring this all up? Because it became an issue in our lives, yet again, last week. Dan works for a company out of Appleton that installs, maintains, and fixes all the security systems for Wisconsin Energies (the power plant in the area). He is the manager for the Milwaukee area and has HUGE responsibilities. On Friday he was called up to the office in Appleton to have a meeting with his boss. Frankly, we thought it was because his co-worker was getting fired (something in the works) and he was going to have to drive him home. Instead, we were all blindsided. His boss informed him that WE (Wisconsin Energies) was no longer allowing Dan onto any sites and could no longer work for them because of his misdemeanor. Even though he has been working there for over a year, his badge (what he had to use to get into all the power plants) was canceled and so was his computer access (he was able to log into their network systems remotely to diagnose and sometimes fix the problems). It was a HUGE blow! Dan has put in countless hours and worked so hard for that company. For it to be taken away like this is unbelievable. His boss is trying to find a way to keep him employed without working at WE. However, that may mean ANOTHER move... this time to Appleton. I can't stomach another move. We have moved 9 times in 5 years. I don't think I can handle another adjustment with yet another new baby.
For those who haven't noticed, BIG changes always happen when we are pregnant. I won't list them all, but it usually happens to be a job change for Dan, usually with financial increase. As we struggle through financially what will most likely be a job loss, I'm praying for a job in the area. For the first time in our marriage, we are at home. We have never felt more comfortable and peaceful with our church and friends. The kids love it here and so do we. Even though I am terribly upset and breaking down (crying), for the first time since we found all of this out, I am trying to focus on the positive. I'm trying to be thankful that unemployment will cover our rent and food. I'm praying that my business will pick up, despite the economy, and cover the rest of our bills. I am praying that God brings joy and happiness back to my husband as he struggles to find a way to provide for us. I'm praying that God carries that burden for him. I'm praying that we can shield the kids from all of the stress that we feel and even more, that God will take away that stress. Most heavy on my heart, I am praying that God not only works out our finances, but that He does not make us move!
What God is speaking to me about today:
"Never will I leave you. Never will I forsake you." Hebrews 13:6
"For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:30
25"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his lifeb]">[b]?
28"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Dan and I feel it heavy on our hearts to be "advancing the kingdom." Our riches should not be stored up here on Earth, but we should be investing in the expansion of Heaven! Our goal is not only to give more (which seems really hard when you are losing your main source of income), but to pour into the kids at our youth group (we are now volunteers there). We are trusting God for big things. For an increase in our finances, even if that means a down time. We are trusting him for a local job, a bigger home, and a way to pay all of our bills in the mean time.
Today, I am focusing on the blessings in my life and putting this aside!
Tuesday, May 26, 2009 by Deeedra
In exciting news, Dan and I are helping out in the youth group now. Maybe now I'll be able to utilize my college education :)
This weekend, after Donny and Chasidy's wedding, we headed up to the cabin where my parents and Derek and Chrissy were spending the holiday weekend. It was fun to surprise them. Heading up there was a very last minute decision, but it was worth it for the kids. Caden loved getting to go fishing and Alanna enjoyed it too. Abram didn't do as bad as I thought he would, which was a relief. Besides, we probably won't be up there again for a couple years since the baby will be too young to be up there next year. :(
I can't even believe how busy this summer is going to be. I only have Thursday night free this week and next week isn't looking much better. I have a feeling this summer is going to FLY by! Too bad winter does seem to go by as fast!
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Thursday, May 21, 2009 by Deeedra
Alanna is a little coloring fanatic. She pulls out her markers and princess coloring book and sits at her table for long periods of time. She works so hard to color in the lines. It's precious!
Caden loves to be outside. I can't blame him. It is so much fun to be outside in this weather and he loves it. We take almost daily trips to the awesome park we have in town, go for walks, play outside (while Caden tries to figure out how to use his rollerblades), go to the zoo, etc. Caden would never come in the house if I didn't make him come in. How fun it will be this summer!
The crazy wedding season is upon me. I'm overwhelmed, stressed, excited, frustrated, hopeful, etc. I kind of can't wait for summer to be over, but the last thing I want is winter. ha. I said I wasn't going to book any more weddings next year, but I guess I was wrong. The other day I got a call from a lady who designs and makes wedding dress (cool!). She got my name from the best florist in Milwaukee (urban sense - so untraditional and amazing). Without even looking at my prices, she was already interested in hiring me for her daughters wedding next may. I told her I wasn't planning on taking weddings next year because of the baby, but she was gently persistent and after I listened to more about her daughters wedding plans, I couldn't pass it up. By the sound of the creativity, I can't pass it up. So, I guess I'm doing a wedding next year... haha. But, the baby will be 9 months old. not bad or anything. So, we'll see.
Please pray for Dan and his job. His hours in the last two weeks total less than 4o hours combined. God is providing for us, so we'll be fine financially, but it can't keep going on like this. The crazy thing is, his job situation has NOTHING to do with the economy. Long story, but just pray for him.
Oh, and in BIG news, I found out at my midwife appointment earlier this month, that we might be expecting twins. I'll know more in June, but I don't think it is two. I just have a feeling it is one. But wouldn't that be just like God? When we decide we are done having children, we found out we were already pregnant, and now, it could be twins? Only God has a sense of humor like that! HA!
New cloth diapers!
Saturday, May 9, 2009 by Deeedra
They're really cute too.


These are supposed to dry faster than my current bumgenius diapers, which is awesome! Hopefully I won't have to take a cold blow dryer to them ;)
You only need 2-4 shells per day! The diapers cost $24 and you get a set of soakers (the inserts) with the shell. A 2 pack of soakers cost $17. So if you were to buy enough of these shells and soakers for one baby, it would cost $215 (equivalent of 18 cloth diapers). 18 bum genius would cost you $306 (and that isn't the organic bumgenius diapers)! 6 Imse Vimse organic covers would cost $110. plus the cost of the diapers. Since Imse Vimse do not grow with your child, you would have to spend $110 a few more times, totaling over 300 dollars. The only cheaper options are the crappy ones from walmart, wool diapers (I just can't suck it up and do it), or making your own covers. I'm all for these new ones! YAY! and they are soooo cute!
